As part of a child custody agreement, a noncustodial parent will be given a certain amount of time that he can spend with the child during summer breaks and other breaks. Even with such court mandates, vacations tend to be stressful for divorced parents.
This is partly because parents continue to have the same expectations of a vacation that they had earlier. Family vacations may no longer be the norm after a divorce. However, that doesn’t mean that vacations have to be stressful, or that they don’t have to be fun anymore. You can compromise, and decide to cooperate with your ex-spouse to make vacations fun for your children.
Plan well in advance and decide the dates that your ex-spouse will take the children for a vacation.
If you plan to have a joint family vacation, factor in some time alone for each parent. If you still continue to have some tension left over with your ex-spouse after the divorce, it may not be such a great idea to plan a family vacation. However, if your child insists that you all go on a family vacation, limit the amount of time that you spend alone with the other parent to minimize tension.
Plan separate activities with the children as much as possible, and minimize any hostility or tension between you and your ex-spouse. Avoid making any comparisons with the holidays of the past. If there are traditions from your past holidays that your children expect to continue, firmly but gently refuse.
If things don’t work out well in a joint vacation even after your efforts, it may be a good idea to ditch joint vacations altogether, and plan individual vacations with each parent in the future.
For help with deciding vacation custody and other details in a parenting plan, speak to a Colorado divorce lawyer.