No one wants their divorce to end up a hostile mess. When you are going through a divorce, you’d like the entire process to go through as smoothly and peacefully as possible, and exposing your children to minimal trauma and anxiety.
That isn’t always how things end up. You can take steps to work towards a peaceful and amicable divorce, however.
Give mediation a chance.
Mediation involves two persons who are trying to end the marriage with the help of a third-party neutral mediator. The job of the third-party mediator is to help the two of you to come to agreement on issues that are related to the divorce, in a manner that is acceptable and agreeable to both of you. A mediator can help you to come to an agreement on issues related to child custody, child-support, as well as division of assets. A mediator can prevent you from becoming too emotional, and can help parties prevent long-term damage to their relationship.
Make no mistake-the divorce is likely to be an emotionally exhausting process. Remember, even a simple divorce can take weeks and even months to settle, and you might find that your energy levels are low, and that you’re frustrated and bitter. Counseling can help you maintain control over your emotions, and sort through the turmoil in your mind. When you’re in control of your emotions, you’re much more likely to make decisions that are in your favor. When you are emotionally traumatized, you are likely to make mistakes that can have long-term consequences. Emotionally, you are likely to do or say things that can damage the relationship between you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
Don’t involve your children in your battles.
That’s really the worst mistake that you can make and practically guarantees that you will have a hostile, resentful divorce that leaves behind bitterness for years, maybe even permanently. Never try to turn your children against the other parent. Avoid using them as messengers with the other parent, and never use them as pawns in your legal battles.
For help filing for divorce, talk to a Colorado family lawyer.