Drafting a parenting time schedule, especially one that takes into consideration the child’s best interests, and ensures that each parent’s rights to time with the child are protected, can be challenging.
However, visitation plans all come down to what the parents want for the child. If you, for instance, want a schedule where you are in contact with the child every other weekend, and are happy with it, then the other parent shouldn’t force a different schedule on you.
If your ex wants your child to participate in extracurricular activities, music lessons, art lessons, sports or any other kind of activities during your visitation time, the best thing for her to do would be to discuss this with you, before she enrolls your child. It’s very important that parents cooperate with each other, and that cannot happen when one parent is making arbitrary decisions about the other parent’s time, without consulting him.
For this reason, it is important that both parents discuss the child’s schedule, and any modifications or adjustments that they may need to make. If the ex-wife wants to sign up the child for a sport, or new classes, that deviates from the normal visitation schedule, she must discuss these changes with the father if the changes will affect visitation time. In all these cases, it’s important to discuss any changes before any are made.