Dragging guilt around, and holding onto resentment for months after a divorce are some of the ways that many men ensure they are simply unable to move on after a divorce.
How does one move on after the divorce?
Learn to let go of the guilt.
There is accepting blame for your role in the divorce, and there is self-flagellation. The latter is self-defeating and can drag you back away from the road towards recovering and healing.
Accept that you had a role in the ending of the marriage, but stop playing “what-if” games with yourself.
Open your eyes to the possibilities that now lay ahead of you in your relationship with your kids. You will find that you’re a much more involved and genuine parent.
Don’t jump back into the dating scene, and don’t get too serious with someone too soon after the divorce. This is a major mistake that many make. Experts suggest a gap of at least one year after the divorce is finalized, before dating.
Establish a routine in your life that you can look forward to. The days and weeks after the divorce can seem confusing, especially because life has changed dramatically, so injecting a small routine -something as simple as visiting a particular restaurant for dinner – could leave you feeling more stable and grounded.