When it comes to parenting resources, women seem to have the undue advantage. Most parenting classes, books and other literature are geared towards mothers, and there are a few resources out there available for fathers. When it comes to divorced or separated fathers, those resources are usually scarce.
Fortunately, divorced fathers can go to parenting classes that they can take with their ex-spouse to help them in with co-parenting. According to many studies, it is not divorce that causes problems for children, who may struggle to cope with their new changed life circumstances when their parents separate. Rather, it is the emotional conflict and turmoil from seeing their parents in constant conflict with each other. These classes give parents a foundation to create a more stable and nurturing environment for their children.
If you are a father, look into such parenting classes near you. In fact, Colorado courts and family lawyers encourage parents to go to such parenting classes. Many family judges in Colorado now require parents to undergo a co-parenting class, as part of the divorce process. These classes typically are conducted by highly trained mental health professionals and teachers.
In a typical parenting class, fathers will learn how to minimize the impact of the divorce to make it easier on the children, and to avoid putting their children in the middle of a hostile parental relationship. As a Dad, you will learn how what kind of behaviors create positive outcomes for children, and how to streamline your co-parenting relationship and make it more efficient, so that that you are working purely with the interests of the children in mind.
Such co-parenting classes are even more beneficial if you currently find yourself in the middle of a co-parenting arrangement with an ex-wife, who simply does not see things the way you do. On your own, you may not be able to decide what behavior is best for your children, and will minimize any long-term psychological impact of the divorce on your children. With a parenting class, many of those doubts are removed, so that you are able to adjust better to your new arrangements.
You will learn how to focus on individual concerns, make use of greater politeness and restraint while speaking with your ex-wife, learn empathy and respect, and learn to solve problems without going into conflict mode. Even if you’re not in a hostile relationship with your ex-wife, these classes are highly recommended to co-parent effectively. The classes provide you the tools you need to be a successful co-parent.