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How to Have an Amicable Divorce

An amicable divorce is not an oxymoron. In spite of all of the stories you hear of nasty divorces, the fact is that it is possible for both of you to terminate your relationship, without bad blood on either side.

An amicable divorce doesn’t necessarily have to mean a painless divorce.  The end of a marriage is a painful and traumatic time, and you and your spouse will have many negative emotions to deal with. However, couples who choose to have an amicable divorce can decide to place all of their negative emotions on the back burner to be dealt with another time. They will decide to mutually come to an agreement, and make things as peaceful for them and their families as possible.

An amicable divorce becomes very necessary when you have children in the picture. Children can be easily traumatized when their parents fight for months over the settlement and other details of the divorce. Remember, the longer you drag out the divorce proceedings, the stronger the impact it will have on your children.

Try to keep the division of assets as simple and stress-free as possible. Ultimately, assets are material, and you may want to consider the trauma involved in going to court for years to hold on to an heirloom or a piece of jewelry. Surprisingly enough, many couples actually find it quite easy to come to terms with the division of assets when they openly communicate with their partners.

Ensure that your ex-spouse is informed of the children’s activities and schedules. That shows that you respect your spouse as the parent of your children, and it makes for not just an amicable divorce, but also a more cooperative co-parenting relationship.

Finally, ensure that you have an attorney who is on the same page with you, regarding the tone of the divorce. If you really want an amicable divorce, but have an aggressive attorney rest assured your amicable divorce will not happen at all.