Part of the process of going on after a divorce is putting the past behind you. You can essentially begin putting the past behind you even while the divorce is going on.
Don’t wait for the divorce to be finalized to begin living your life. That doesn’t mean that you begin dating randomly, and introduce your children to each and every new romantic partner-that is one of the surest ways for you to jeopardize your child custody case. However, you can, pickup new hobbies or interests, focus on your job, and focus on life outside of the divorce proceedings. Remember, divorce has a way of consuming your life, and it doesn’t have to do that. The more you have going on in your life, while the divorce is on, the easier you will find it to move on after the divorce.
Give yourself some time to mourn the loss of the marriage after the divorce, but avoid hanging on to the past. Remember that the divorce happened for a reason, and that everything happens-as the cliché goes was-for the good. In other words, there is much to look forward to, with you starting all over again on a clean slate.
Continue to reach out to people in your network who will support you during the divorce. Remember, there may be days after the divorce when you feel low, and like a failure. You will need loved ones to take you through those days.
Also remember that your friends and your family may have been close to your wife and may need to go on seeing her after the divorce. Accept that, and make adjustments for that in your life. Cutting out important people from your life just because they want to keep in touch with your ex is self-defeating.