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Effective Communication During a Divorce from your Wife

If you are considering divorce, know that some of the things that you unwittingly let slip, could actually be used against you when it comes to the division of assets. Say for instance, you talk about an expensive new purchase in front of your wife. The details of that asset could be presented in court when it comes time to dividing assets. Limited communication is key.

Take care to avoid quarrels or fights. Things said in the heat of the moment or during a verbal quarrel can also be twisted and used against you in court. Be very careful about your interactions with your children. The most innocuous behaviors around children could be used by wives to claim in court that you are an unfit parent and do not deserved unsupervised parenting time with the children.

Stop talking about the divorce to friends and family. As much as possible, discuss your divorce with your attorney and let your attorney do to the talking for you. For additional help, look for a support group for men and/or a therapist.

Don’t get baited into a quarrel. If you sense a fight is beginning to erupt, remove yourself from the situation, or take any steps to avoid an altercation.

Be very careful even when you are engaging in nonverbal communication with your wife. Take care about what you write in your e-mails, text messages or anything that you post on your social media pages.

Consider what you post on Facebook or Twitter. Facebook is a gold mine for divorce attorneys who use it to dig out “dirt” that they can use against the opposing party in the courtroom. For example, avoid posting pictures of you posing with your brand new car, while the divorce proceedings are not yet complete. In fact, as long as the divorce proceedings are on, it is probably a good idea to deactivate your Facebook and Twitter accounts altogether.

This article is not legal or financial advice. You should contact a lawyer, accountant and/or financial professional in your state to discuss the specifics or your case and applicable laws.