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Deciding to Date Again After Divorce

How do you decide if it’s time for you to begin dating again?

Ask yourself if you are ready.

Different people take different lengths of time to get over the divorce, before beginning to date again. Typically, many find themselves able to move on only approximately 10 to 12 months after the divorce. If you have been married for very long however, you might find that it takes longer. There is no right or wrong rule here, however. What works for someone else may not necessarily work for you.

Finding out if you are ready is easy. Determining how your children feel about you dating again is far more complicated. Remember, the kids may not come right out and tell you that they do not want you to start seeing other people. If your children are still struggling to adjust to their new lifestyle, then you may not want to complicate matters by starting a new relationship.

If the children are older, and have recovered to the extent that they are able to confide in you about all of their insecurities and fears, that is a good sign and means that that you can discuss your life with them. You can kick off a conversation about dating, and see how it goes with the children.

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