The decision to file for divorce is never an easy one. However, once you have made the decision, it’s important to plan out your part of the negotiations, and begin discussions with an attorney.
This is where sound legal advice will prove critical. There are several mistakes that people make, especially in the emotional days after they have decided to get a divorce. Once you make the decision to file a divorce, don’t delay. Sometimes, people wait after a major holiday to make the announcement. However, filing for divorce before a major holiday could make more sense. There are many things about a divorce that can hit you, e.g. the empty space in your wardrobe. There are things that can trigger a meltdown. Making the decision for a quick divorce could be more helpful and practical in your situation.
Be practical about what you want in terms of your divorce agreement. Don’t ask for things that are not practical to maintain. For instance, if you get custody of the children, then it is very likely that you will get the house. However, don’t hold on to the house as part of the divorce agreement purely for emotional reasons. A house comes with house taxes and a whole lot of maintenance expenses, and may not be what is best for you. Speak your lawyers about the pros and cons involved before you make a decision.
Speak to a tax consultant about what will work best for you in terms of taxes.
If you are already seeing a therapist, continue doing so until divorce proceedings are complete, and even after. You can never tell when things will get difficult or ugly, and you will need professional help to deal with the stress. Failure to get professional help can also help make you lose your cool, which is the last thing that you want to do.
Just because you want the divorce to be resolved as quickly as possible, don’t deny that there are other alternatives to a court divorce. Try out mediation or a collaborative divorce. In a collaborative divorce, you use your attorney to come to a joint agreement on property, child custody and other matters. These divorces are less stressful. Look into these options to lessen stress and resolve matters quickly. A court divorce can fulfill your desire of wreaking vengeance on your spouse, but can be ugly, long drawn out, and devastating for your children.
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This article is not legal or financial advice. You should contact a lawyer, accountant and/or financial professional in your state to discuss the specifics or your case and applicable laws.